Being criticized by her mother-in-law for being ugly, the daughter-in-law secretly did this, making her mother-in-law shocked and regretful for criticizing her.

 I am tired and beyond endurance because for the past 10 years I have lived with my harsh mother-in-law.

I am 35 years old this year, married for 10 years. Before, I used to be a petite, good-looking person. But due to time, being busy making money and having children, I can no longer maintain my figure. Meanwhile, my husband is only 2 years older than me, he is becoming more and more stylish, younger and more handsome than when he was young. Sometimes I also feel very worried, afraid that my husband will get bored and have someone else, but then I console myself that he cares for and loves his wife and children very much, so it is difficult for him to have someone outside.

My husband did not criticize me, but encouraged me: ” I love you for who you are, but everyone’s beauty is only temporary .” I was very touched and tried to take care of my family every day. But my mother-in-law did not think so. She did not like her daughter-in-law from the beginning, so if there was anything she was not satisfied with, she would harshly criticize and speak ill of her.

Hearing my neighbor tell me about her mother-in-law criticizing her daughter-in-law to outsiders, I felt sad. My mother-in-law said I was short, fat, and not pretty at all. As a woman, everyone wants to be young and beautiful, but I don’t have time to be beautiful. All day long, I only have work to do, when I come home, I am dizzy with housework, teaching the children…

Being criticized by my mother-in-law, I had many nights of feeling resentful and hurt. I was determined to spend time and money on beauty treatments. Every day I set aside time to exercise, lose weight and try to slim down my body. I also spent a lot of money on skin care and cosmetic surgery to beautify some parts of my face. After a short time, I became a completely different person, receiving compliments wherever I went.

The daughter-in-law has become more beautiful and dresses very fashionably, but my mother-in-law is still not satisfied. She sees that her daughter-in-law is reducing housework and spending a lot of money on beauty, so she objects. The mother-in-law is afraid that her daughter-in-law will spend all her income and become more beautiful, and other men will flirt with her. Many times, the mother-in-law hinted that she should not spend a lot of money on beauty and spend more time on housework. 

There was a time when she called me to her room to talk privately. She shared that she regretted criticizing her daughter-in-law and promised never to mention beauty again. In return, I had to stop working out and getting beauty treatments. My mother-in-law said that and I felt very awkward. It was my personal matter but my mother-in-law unreasonably interfered and forbade it.

My husband is very supportive of his wife’s beauty and confidence in life. He helps me with housework, tutors the children in school… When my mother-in-law sees this, she scolds me for being lazy, playing around, and bullying my husband and children. I am very sad because I live in the same house with a difficult mother-in-law who is strict with her daughter-in-law. Whatever I do, she is not satisfied, finds shortcomings to criticize and scold.

At this age, my mother-in-law treats me like a child, giving me many harsh rules to follow. I am very tired and stressed because every day I have to face my mother-in-law who always says hurtful things to her daughter-in-law. For the sake of my husband and children, I have been patient for the past 10 years, but now I feel like I can’t bear it anymore.

What should I do to be loved and respected by my mother-in-law? My mother-in-law is so unreasonable, should I find a way to ask my husband to move out and live separately? Please give me some advice!