Mother-in-law criticized her daughter-in-law for being unfilial when she contributed 1 million VND to her father-in-law’s death anniversary. The new daughter-in-law’s reaction was surprising.

This year is the first year of my father-in-law’s death anniversary. When my mother-in-law saw me giving 1 million VND for the death anniversary, she immediately frowned and said, “It’s my father’s first death anniversary and you only gave me 1 million VND” in a very sarcastic tone.

The day I moved to my husband’s house, the person I felt most sympathetic towards was my father-in-law. He was a calm, thoughtful person and treated me very well. Perhaps the time he was alive was the time I lived most comfortably at my husband’s house. Because my mother-in-law was a very difficult person.

My husband’s house was cramped and he was worried about the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, so after living together for a while, my husband discussed renting out. After several years of farming and saving money, together with the money my father-in-law helped us buy an apartment for low-income people. Although life was not very comfortable, I felt satisfied. Because my children were healthy and my husband was understanding.

My husband’s personality is quite similar to my father-in-law. My mother-in-law is completely different from my father-in-law. She is lazy, calculating, and observant. Because of that, I am not as close as I am with my father-in-law.

Three years ago, my father-in-law had a stroke. Although he survived, he was paralyzed from the waist down. My father-in-law had to depend on his wife and children for almost everything. However, after being discharged from the hospital and returning home, my mother-in-law, who was lazy, found an excuse to call my husband and I to live with her and take care of my father-in-law.

Before, my mother-in-law was very reluctant to take care of others, so she pushed all the care work onto me. The only thing in the house was my husband’s younger sister who was too young to do anything, so I had to do everything nearby. That time was quite hard for me, but luckily my office was near my house, so I took advantage of the opportunity to go to both places.

When my husband comes home from work, we take turns staying by my father’s side at night because my mother-in-law can’t stay up late. Sometimes, my mother-in-law comes in for a while, like a “guest”. When I was in the hospital taking care of him, many people mistook me for their daughter and didn’t know I was their daughter-in-law.

After a year of being bedridden, my father-in-law passed away. This year is the first anniversary of my father-in-law’s death, so my husband and I gave my mother-in-law money to contribute to the incense and food offerings. It’s said to contribute, but the amount of money my father-in-law left for my mother-in-law when he passed away must have been several decades old.

The day before the death anniversary, I brought a gift basket with 1 million to burn incense for my father-in-law. But as soon as I gave the money, my mother-in-law immediately frowned and said: “On your first death anniversary, you only gave me 1 million” in a very sarcastic tone. ” Usually, you were so loved by your father-in-law, but now you are so strict. Aren’t you afraid that if someone finds out, they will say you are unfilial? What can you do with 1 million now? ” – she said.

When I heard my mother-in-law speak with such sarcasm, I was very upset. Although my mother-in-law and I had never gotten along, I always kept quiet to keep the peace. At this point, I could no longer hold back and turned to her and said: ” Mom, the measure of filial piety is not money. On the anniversary of our parents’ death, as children, if we have the heart to remember them, just lighting a stick of love is precious. Do you remember when my father was still alive and then when he was paralyzed after a stroke and needed someone to take care of him the most, you were the one who pushed him away. You let your husband and I take care of him or not. To tell you the truth, it is the living who need to care. When they are gone, there is no point in setting up lavish feasts. How can the dead enjoy it ?”

At that time, my mother-in-law was silent and did not say a word. At that moment, my husband came home. Knowing the incident, my husband did not blame me, but he gently reminded me to be more tactful in the way I spoke next time. As for my mother-in-law, he also said: ” The money my wife gave for my father’s death anniversary was my responsibility. I think my wife has lived a very devoted and filial life towards her husband’s family. When my father was still alive and when he was sick, the person who took care of him the most was her .”

Because I didn’t want the family atmosphere to become more serious, I changed the topic to something else to make my mother-in-law feel less embarrassed. From that day on, my mother-in-law changed her attitude towards me. She seemed more friendly towards me, so the relationship between us improved.